Hosted by Karina Stenquist, Videmic takes an irreverent quirky look at Web TV and viral videos. In this episode, we highlight some of the most revealing shows on the net.

This video of the Sex Worker Literati inaugural reading from August 6 features four performers from all corners of the sex business: blues diva and pinup girl Candye Kane, Times Square wild girl Jodi Sh. Doff, renowned artist and former nude model Molly Crabapple, and porn producer Sam Benjamin.Videos of full performances posted on Tuesdays.Sex Worker LiteratiHosted by Audacia Ray & David Henry Sterry Happy Ending, 302 Broome Street between Forsyth and Eldridge, in New York City First Thursday of the Month. Doors at 7 pm, reading from 8-10 FREE Portion of proceeds from the bar supports sex workers rights groupsBest-selling author David Henry Sterry and sexuality rights activist Audacia Ray, both former workers in the sex industry, are proud to announce Sex Worker Literati, a new free monthly reading series that features sex workers, former sex workers, and people with stories about the sex industry who will read, monologue, perform, and shimmy their ways into your hearts, minds, and naughty bits. The series kicks off at 8 pm on Thursday, August 6 at the Lower East Side staple Happy Ending (302 Broome Street), which fittingly enough was once an erotic massage parlor. On the first Thursday of every month, Sterry and Ray will showcase a diverse set of performers who have stories to tell about the business of sex.

L Z Hansen grew up in London England. She quit school at fifteen: expelled from numerous schools, and eventually diagnosed as dyslexic. She studied fashion design at Kings-way Princeton, where she lasted a year, more interested in clubs and the streets than the classroom.

In 1978, at 17, Jennifer Blowdryer began to sing with her very own punk band, The Blowdryers. In 1983 – 84, she put together her first book, Modern English: A Photo Illustrated Trendy Slang Dictionary. In 1984, she was singing in a party band, White Trash Debutante and got a fellowship to the Writing Division of Columbia U.

In the New York Times Book Review on Sunday, August 23rd, Toni Bentley writes this about Jodi Sh. Doff's piece: “Lele,” a piece by Jodi Sh. Doff, who “grew up in the suburbs as someone else entirely,” recalls Henry Miller’s in-your-face exposition. She tells of a night at Diamond Lil’s on Canal Street, where “Viva’s sitting onstage, legs spread wide.” While her customer is buried and busy, she holds a cigarette in one hand, a drink in the other, and chitchats with a girlfriend about another girlfriend. “Every two minutes or so Viva taps him on the head and he hands her a 20 from a stack of bills he’s holding, never looking up.” We see in this wonderful set piece the whole money/sex connection enacted with raw charm and an immediacy that reaches far beyond this strip club, as the man’s stack of 20s, one by one, becomes hers. Multitasking Viva holds them “folded lengthwise in her cigarette hand.” Read more of Jodi's writing at http://dirtygirldiaries.com

Candye Kane may still be a well-kept mainstream secret but in most underground circles, her diva status is legendary. She has been making music professionally for over two decades and toured worldwide since 1992, performing for amazingly diverse audiences. She played at the French Embassy in Rome for the President of Italy, headlined the Rhythm Riot, a rockabilly and R&B festival in the UK, and belted it out alongside Ray Charles at the Cognac Blues Festival. She slayed em’ at the Cannes Film Festival, kept them enthralled at New York Gay Pride and most recently, helped organize a thirteen city tour of the Netherlands for special needs kids. Learn more and hear her sing on her website.In this video of her performance at Sex Worker Literati in NYC on August 6, 2009, Candye talks about growing up, using the sex industry as a springboard for her music career, and moving up through the ranks of the country and blues music scenes. She also sings two songs, a Memphis Minnie tune and an original.

Sam Benjamin is a graduate of Brown University (1999), a former go-go dancer, and the director of over one thousand Los Angeles-based interracial gangbangs, gay and straight. His book, “Confessions of An Ivy League Pornographer,” is a memoir of a youth well spent. This piece was performed at Sex Worker Literati in New York City on August 6, 2009.

Audacia Ray is a media maker and activist who is passionate about sexual rights. She is the author of Naked on the Internet: Hookups, Downloads, and Cashing In On Internet Sexploration (Seal Press, 2007) and is the award-winning director and producer of the porn feature The Bi Apple as well as the producer and star of the comedic film short Dacia’s Love Machine. Audacia is a former sex worker who was an executive editor at $pread magazine for three years and is a co-founder of advocacy organization Sex Work Awareness. Dacia has been writing her personal blog, Waking Vixen, since 2004. www.audaciaray.com Dacia's piece "Hot Flush of Cash and Lust" appears in the anthology Hos, Hookers, Call Girls, and Rent Boys

Reading SeriesPhoto by Sinead McCarthy, design by Sinclair SexsmithSex Worker LiteratiHosted by Audacia Ray & David Henry Sterry Happy Ending, 302 Broome Street between Forsyth and Eldridge, in New York City First Thursday of the Month. Doors at 7 pm, reading from 8-10 FREE Portion of proceeds from the bar supports sex workers rights groupsBest-selling author David Henry Sterry and sexuality rights activist Audacia Ray, both former workers in the sex industry, are proud to announce Sex Worker Literati, a new free monthly reading series that features sex workers, former sex workers, and people with stories about the sex industry who will read, monologue, perform, and shimmy their ways into your hearts, minds, and naughty bits. The series kicks off at 8 pm on Thursday, August 6 at the Lower East Side staple Happy Ending (302 Broome Street), which fittingly enough was once an erotic massage parlor. On the first Thursday of every month, Sterry and Ray will showcase a diverse set of performers who have stories to tell about the business of sex.The reading series is inspired by a new anthology edited by David Henry Sterry and RJ Martin, Hos, Hookers, Call Girls, and Rent Boys: Professionals Writing on Life, Love, Work & Money published in July 2009 by Soft Skull. After Sterry asked Ray to contribute a piece to the anthology, they began to discuss collaboration possibilities. The results are the Sex Worker Literati reading series and the website hoshookercallgirlsrentboys.com, which features writings by sex workers, sneak peeks at the book, and videos featuring anthology contributors.The Sex Worker Literati inaugural reading on August 6 features six performers from all corners of the sex business. Blues diva and pinup girl Candye Kane, Times Square wild girl Jodi Sh. Doff, Scandinavian/African rent boy Damien Decker, and ex-teenage ho/ award-winning filmmaker Juliana Piccillo are all contributors to the anthology. They will be joined by renowned artist and former nude mo

David Henry Sterry is a bestselling author, Huffington Post regular, award winning actor/comic, book doctor, teacher, activist, and a man who hasn’t worn matching socks in years. He is writer of and performer in the one-man show "Chicken", based on his bestselling memoir Chicken: Self-Portrait of a Young Man for Rent (ReganBooks: 2002), which has been translated into nine languages, and is being made into a series by Showtime. He is an editor of a new anthology by Soft Skull Press: Hos, Hustlers, Callgirls and Rentboys: Professionals Writing on Life, Love, Money, and Sex. www.davidhenrysterry.com This story is from the anthology Hos, Hookers, Call Girls, and Rent Boys and was performed at In the Flesh, hosted by Rachel Kramer Bussel on August 20, 2009.

It can take a long time to regain someone's trust after you've had an affair, but it can be done.

Increase your odds of meeting Mr. Right – and attracting his attention –­ with these tips.

With a little self-awareness, you can learn to tame your green-eyed monster.

Before you go out on that first date with what might be the most amazing person you’ve ever met, make sure it won’t be the last!

I’m going to explore ways to keep the spark alive when you can’t sleep next to your love every night. Do you or your significant other travel for work? Or maybe you just live across town from one another and you want to feel more connected. We all know the saying “Absence makes the heart grow fonder.” Well, when two individuals are committed to making their relationship thrive, time apart can be a creative challenge that can bring out your wild and sexy side. Having some space in your togetherness is a GOOD thing. Modern day technology is a blessing. It allows us to IM or chat throughout the day. We can video-conference with programs such as iChat or Skype. We can take mini-videos with our cell phones or flip video recorders. Or we can take still photos and text them to our love ALL in the blink of an eye. With boundless technology at our fingertips, it is only our minds that limit us. Staying connected while traveling doesn’t have to be accomplished through gadgets. When my love traveled, I encouraged him to pack his bags the day before because that gave me time to sneak notes into the pockets of his clothes. During the day he would run across a sweet nothing from me like a simple “I love you!” or a little racier “Start guessing NOW what I am going to be OR NOT be wearing under my jacket when I pick you up from the airport.” Mentally, scents can keep the two of you closer. Smell is a powerful component for bringing memories quickly into focus. I recommend having a piece of clothing—a t-shirt or a sweatshirt that has been worn for a day or two by your partner loaded with their pheromones or simply a scarf with your love’s perfume or cologne on it—along with you when you travel. You will be bringing a part of them along with you. Also a fragrant candle or incense that brings back thoughts of your love. Pack photos that you can put on your remote desk or place on your bedside table. When you aren’t there to physically touch your love make sur

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Is your love stressed out, too uptight for sex because she had a rough day at the office? You know the routine, she’s ready to jump into her sweats, curl up on the couch, and eat some comfort food to unwind from the week…..OH NO!... this looks like the recipe for YOU AIN’T GETTING LUCKY TONIGHT. So, if you want to help her unwind, de-stress but not CRASH get ready to watch and learn some pointers. Chances are if you take these few steps, the two of you will be much happier campers. Telling you about the benefits of sex is like preaching to the choir but dropping these factoids around your significant other may strengthen the case in her mind. So here it goes: researchers report that increasing the frequency of having sex from 1x per month to 1x per week is the happiness equivalent of an increase in $50,000 annually in your income. You can do better than that -let’s shoot for 3x because guys who have sex 3x per week also reduce their chances of having a heart attack or stroke by 50%. Plus, women who have more regular sex live longer, their bodies feel younger and overall they are more connected to their love. You probably don’t need much convincing to have more sex what you need NOW are a few helpful hints to get her in the mood. One of my favorite suggestions is a sexy bubble bath… If you know you are going to surprise her, get started the day before. For your information: many women are scared to take a shower let alone a bath in their boyfriend’s tub. So take time to turn the bathroom a comfortable place for her. Are the tub and floors clean? Are there are fluffy towels and a clean bath mat? On the way home, grab a bottle of bubbly, a white wine or some vodka… grapes, a mango or an orange are all good fruits to hand feed her while she’s chilling in the tub. Maybe get some rose petals and a couple flowers to place in the bathroom. Make sure you have candles. And have something sexy or romantic to read to her. Chill your drink in the refrigera

Okay, getting prepared for and going on a picnic may not be your first choice in a weekend activity but this is NOT about you. Really, it is about HER, creating a beautiful experience and memory for you both. And yes, I promise you will benefit by scoring BIG points and I bet by the end of the day, you will definitely enjoy the picnic. No matter where you live you can find some place to have a picnic. Maybe under a tree on a hill? Or how about a park with a playground. Or if it is late or starts raining you can even set up a picnic on your living room floor. Keeping it simple is fine but it’s your attention to the details that will make her feel like she is special in your eyes and that you care enough to want to make her happy. Let’s review the top ten essentials for our killer picnic: One— the most important component is your date; SO make sure she knows she is the star Two —the element of surprise if possible Three— be forward thinking and bring a kit of toiletries for both of you in case this turns into a sleep over at a nearby B&B Four—have a destination in mind beforehand Five— classic picnic faire: cheese, bread, fruit, some protein- chicken, salmon, salami, a salad--pasta, lettuce or capraese salad, roasted nuts and of course something sweet Six—Drinks, both alcoholic and non-alcoholic (remember to get some ice if you are planning on having champagne or white wine Let’s ask some experts in Pt. Reyes Station for their advice… Seven— Real wine glasses, utensils, cloth napkins and plates Eight— a Blanket Nine— a camera to capture the memories Ten— Layers of clothes to accommodate for the drop in temperature after the sunsets Fun extras: Your mp3 player and speakers with a special mix for the day A bird guide Binoculars to watch the birds Romantic poetry or if you know her well enough and are ready for it to get steamy, a book of erotic stories If all goes well, this picnic will be a memory in “your story” together, so as

What are women looking for? How to answer women's challenging questions? Today I am taking Intelligent Love: 411 for Men to the streets to find women to answer YOUR questions. I gathered these questions from the “Ask Joy” Campaign on my website (www.joyofromance.com). There were some great questions and suggestions; so, I encourage you to continue submitting more as you think of them. Questions answered during this episode: What advice would you give your guy to help him successfully answer the question “How does this outfit make me look?” What traits do you would look for in a guy you wanted to “hook up” with? How quickly should a guy connect with you after he gets your number? Over and over, I heard women say they crave confident men. They detest arrogance and insincerity. SO GUYS that means NO PICK UP LINES! AND their best times have been with men who make them feel comfortable and bring out their best. Women evaluated a man’s success at this by his overall body language, eye contact and ability to engage her in conversation. Overall women want a man who is confident and empathetic. I look forward to seeing you during the next episode of Intelligent Love.

Nibbling on her nipples has an extra benefit of releasing more oxytocin in your partner. Watch and learn why increasing your and your partner's levels of oxytocin is a good thing for sustaining passionate and thriving relationships.Recently, I was invited to attend an Oxytocin Party.** I know that this may sound a bit strange and something one would only find in Northern California. The fact is it was very enlightening; the goal was to educate those attending on the beneficial affects of oxytocin. Each person at the gathering had the opportunity to have a one-to-one consultation with a licensed homeopathic doctor. If, after the consultation, the individual felt oxytocin might be beneficial to them they had the chance to try a dose. Some people attending had already tried the oxytocin lozenge but for others this was their first experience. As Host of Intelligent Love : 411 for Men, I was invited because of my interest in the chemistry of love. I wanted to learn more and get a first hand look into the praised positive affects I have been hearing about oxytocin. Oxytocin has been in the press quite a bit in the last few years with nicknames like the bonding hormone, the trust hormone and the cuddle drug. Many studies have expanded our knowledge of the effects of oxytocin beyond its most known synthetic form Pitocin, given to induce labor in pregnant women. Literally translated in Greek to “quick birth,” the neurotransmitter oxytocin (ox-ee-TOE-sin) is naturally released in women’s bodies during childbirth, breastfeeding, nipple stimulation and orgasm. It is found in equal amounts in both men and women but its affects are felt more by women because of their levels of estrogen and prolactin, which increase the effects. Testosterone in men has the opposite effect, in turn negating many of the effects of oxytocin. Its presence in the body is associated with an increase in recognizing facial cues, bonding, the reduction of anxiety and an overall increase in leve