Asexuality
Not Gay, Not Straight, Not Bisexual. A New Sexual Identity Emerges.
First Asexual Trailer - 2/14/08
Asexuality. Is it a real thing? If so, what does it actually mean?
In an article by David Jay in American Sexuality Magazine, he explains what asexuality is, and how a person can have a satisfying relationship while identifying as an asexual individual. Jay should knowhes speaking from first hand experience.
One of the quirks of being asexual Jay says, is that classifying and prioritizing relationships becomes a mite tricky. In his article, Jay explains how he sees himself as a bit of an intimacy ho. Unlike some asexuals who prefer a solitary lifestyle, Jay admits to desiring relationships (sans the sex) from many, many different people.
Upon learning early on that a meaningful relationship had to include sex, Jay rebelled. There had to be a way, he thought, to feel what he wanted to feel without the socially inflicted constraints.
It wasnt long before my close friendships started to look and act like dating, and it wasnt much longer until they broke away from that and started to become something else entirely he writes. Relationships, I realized, can be fun, in much the same way that I imagine sex is fun for sexual folk. New types of pleasure started popping up all over, and it seemed like there would never be time to explore them all. They ran the gamutfrom the intellectual to the physical, from the deeply empowering to the utterly frivolous.
Asexuality is a sexual orientation describing individuals who do not experience sexual attraction or do not have interest in or desire for sex. Sometimes, it is considered a lack of a sexual orientation. One commonly cited study placed the incidence rate of asexuality at 1%.
Asexuality is distinct from celibacy, which is the deliberate abstention from sexual activity. Some asexuals do have sex. ”
Jay makes a rather revolutionary argument about intimate relating when he sta