Life embraces characters of beings that all creatures evolve to the extent for what necessity counted. As Marx and Charles implied, the most responsive to change obtain the survival privilege in semi-harmony and pro-competitive surroundings.
I was browsing through my blog entries when I came by this.
It reminded me of the conversation with my Mum and Grandma over breakfast.
“With the divorce rate over 50%, too many are apparently making a serious mistake in deciding whom to spend the rest of their life with. To avoid becoming a “statistic,” try to internalize 10 insights.
1. You pick the wrong person because you expect him/her to change after you’re married.
The classic mistake! NEVER MARRY POTENTIAL!! The Golden Rule is, if you can’t be happy with the person the way he or she is now, don’t get married.
As a colleague of mine so wisely put it, “You actually can expect people to change after their married…for the worst!”
So when it comes to the other person’s spirituality, character, personal hygiene, communication skills, and personal habits, make sure you can live with these as they are now.
2. You pick the wrong person because you focus more on chemistry than their character.
Chemistry ignites the fire, but good character keeps it burning.
Beware of the “I’m in love” syndrome. “I’m in love” often means, “I’m in lust.”
Attraction is there, but have you carefully checked out this person’s character?
Here are four characteristics to definitely check for:
Humility:
Does this person believe that “doing the right thing” is more important than personal comfort?’
Kindness:
Does this person enjoy giving pleasure to other people?
How does s/he treat people s/he doesn’t have to be nice to?
Does s/he do volunteer work? Give to charity?
Responsibility:
Can I depend on this person to do what s/he says s/he’s going to do?
Happiness:
Does this person like himself? Does s/he enjoy life?
Is s/he emotionally stable?
Ask yourself:
Do I want to be more like this person?
Do I want to have a child with this person?
Would I like my child to turn out like him or her?
3. You choose the wrong person because you do not share a common life goal and priorities. There are